{"id":4484,"date":"2019-01-30T11:40:10","date_gmt":"2019-01-30T10:40:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/?p=4484"},"modified":"2020-01-28T12:08:37","modified_gmt":"2020-01-28T11:08:37","slug":"nl-01-2019-conflicts-at-home-domestic-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/blog\/nl-01-2019-conflicts-at-home-domestic-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"Newsletter-INKOVEMA #33: Conflicts at home &#8211; Domestic violence"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 gradient-container-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-2 gradient-container-2 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_3 1_3 fusion-one-third fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:33.333333333333%;width:calc(33.333333333333% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.33333333333333 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_3 1_3 fusion-one-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:33.333333333333%;width:calc(33.333333333333% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.33333333333333 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-3 fusion_builder_column_1_3 1_3 fusion-one-third fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:33.333333333333%;width:calc(33.333333333333% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.33333333333333 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-alignleft\"><a class=\"fusion-button button-flat fusion-button-default-size button-default fusion-button-default button-1 fusion-button-default-span fusion-button-default-type\" target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/newsletter-archive\/\"><span class=\"fusion-button-text awb-button__text awb-button__text--default\">View all newsletters<\/span><\/a><\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-3 gradient-container-3 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-4 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-one\"><h1 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:34;line-height:1.4;\"><h1>INKOVEMA Newsletter<\/h1>\n<h1>Mediation and conflict management<\/h1>\n<h1># 33<\/h1><\/h1><\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-2 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-one\"><h1 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:34;line-height:1.4;\"><h2><strong>A. Key topics: <\/strong><\/h2>\n<h3>&#8211; Conflicts at home &#8211; Domestic violence<\/h3>\n<h3>&#8211; Escalated conflict management in life and love relationships<\/h3>\n<h3>&#8211; Violence against women and men<\/h3>\n<h2><\/h2>\n<h2><\/h2>\n<h2><strong>B. Concepts for mediation:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h3>&#8211; Part 1 &#8211; The TA concept of passivity &#8211; passive thinking<\/h3><\/h1><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><h2><strong>Domestic violence<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Domestic violence is still a frequent <strong>Form of escalated conflict management in life and love relationships<\/strong>. And it can still be confidently called <strong>Taboo subject<\/strong>which is by no means backed up by reliable figures, data and facts. In the following, we have tried to <strong>comprehensive, up-to-date and balanced links on all sides<\/strong> on the subject. They are not always encouraging in content, sometimes a violent punch in the gut &#8211; and yet helpful in their existence in order to <strong>Debate<\/strong>with this topic and<strong> constructive developments <\/strong>to promote.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>WHO study<\/strong>: &#8222;Violence within relationships is the most widespread <strong>Violence against women<\/strong>This affects 30 per cent of all women worldwide&#8220;.\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sueddeutsche.de\/leben\/who-studie-zu-gewalt-gegen-frauen-gewalt-kann-jede-treffen-1.1702162\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">1st link (report on Germany and certain women's groups)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sueddeutsche.de\/panorama\/studie-der-who-gewalt-gegen-frauen-ist-ein-problem-von-epidemischem-ausmass-1.1702132\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">2nd link (report on the study in general)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.who.int\/mediacentre\/news\/releases\/2013\/violence_against_women_20130620\/en\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">3rd link (WHO website)<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Study by the Federal Government (2012)<\/strong> to\u00a0<strong>Violence in couple relationships. <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bmfsfj.de\/blob\/93970\/957833aefeaf612d9806caf1d147416b\/gewalt-paarbeziehungen-data.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li>When the<strong> last stages of escalation dug<\/strong> become. Victims report relationship violence. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.spiegel.de\/panorama\/justiz\/haeusliche-gewalt-carla-und-der-kampf-ums-kind-a-1236796.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li>The <strong>Statistics of the BKA<\/strong> on German violence (in relationships) in 2017. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.faz.net\/aktuell\/gesellschaft\/kriminalitaet\/statistik-fast-140-000-menschen-opfer-von-gewalt-in-partnerschaft-15900001.html?GEPC=s9\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>You can't be a victim.<\/strong> Two still tell their stories. Podcast. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mdr.de\/kultur\/themen\/feature-regine-schneider-mann-kann-kein-opfer-sein-100.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Male victims<\/strong> Violence in relationships is no longer a rarity in Germany.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.welt.de\/politik\/deutschland\/article159678307\/In-deutschen-Beziehungen-wird-immer-mehr-gepruegelt.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Violence against men<\/strong> &#8211; a controversial area of discussion. Here is an article by the well-known men's rights activist Arne Hoffmann, which is directed against the common clich\u00e9\/prejudice etc. and less against the violence as such. <a href=\"https:\/\/manndat.de\/feministische-mythen\/haeusliche-gewalt\/haeusliche-gewalt-gegen-maenner-jeder-dritte-ist-opfer.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li>For two months now, it has also been available in\u00a0<strong>France prohibited<\/strong>, <strong>Children<\/strong> <strong>violent<\/strong> <strong>to educate<\/strong>. A slap in the face is therefore no longer a private decision, but a violation of the child recognised by criminal law.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sueddeutsche.de\/leben\/pruegelstrafe-erziehung-schlaege-frankreich-1.4233728\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Why<strong>\u00a0Victims of domestic violence<\/strong>t just go but often stay.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.zeit.de\/kultur\/2019-01\/haeusliche-gewalt-koerperliche-misshandlung-anzeige-taeter-opfer-10nach8\/komplettansicht\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link (subjective report)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Digital spying tool<\/strong>e for private use &#8211; Excuse me, where can I find such a thing?\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sueddeutsche.de\/digital\/digitale-gewalt-stalking-c-leipzig-anne-roth-1.4268089\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li>How can I as <strong>Neighbour in action<\/strong> kick? What can I do and what should I not do as a witness of domestic violence? <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jetzt.de\/gutes-leben\/was-kann-ich-als-nachbar-gegen-haeusliche-gewalt-tun\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Gloria Allred<\/strong> fights in the USA for the right of women who have been <strong>influential and powerful men are abused<\/strong>were made. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zeit.de\/zeit-magazin\/2018\/52\/gloria-allred-frauenrechtlerin-rechtsanwaeltin-usa\/komplettansicht\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-has-icon fusion-full-width-sep fusion-clearfix\" style=\"float:left;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><span class=\"icon-wrapper\" style=\"border-color:#e0dede;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0);font-size:16px;width: 1.75em; height: 1.75em;border-width:1px;padding:1px;margin-top:-0.5px\"><i class=\"fa-th-list fas\" style=\"font-size: inherit;color:#e2e2e2;\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/span><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-4 gradient-container-4 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-5 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\"><h2><strong>Emotions and feelings<\/strong><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>The difference that isn't a difference at all. Robots and<strong> People similarly feign feelings. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sueddeutsche.de\/digital\/kuenstliche-intelligenz-ich-zeige-mitgefuehl-also-bin-ich-1.4288679\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Loneliness. How people in <strong>Loneliness<\/strong> live. A photographic project. <a href=\"https:\/\/ze.tt\/so-leben-diese-menschen-in-absoluter-einsamkeit-tras-os-montes-portugal\/?utm_campaign=ref&amp;utm_content=zett_zon_teaser_teaser_x&amp;utm_medium=fix&amp;utm_source=zon_zettaudev_int&amp;wt_zmc=fix.int.zettaudev.zon.ref.zett.zon_teaser.teaser.x\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Why the <strong>Time to heal all wounds <\/strong>when it does. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.faz.net\/aktuell\/stil\/leib-seele\/warum-die-zeit-niemals-alle-wunden-heilt-15985874.html?GEPC=s9\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Link (with payment barrier)<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-has-icon fusion-full-width-sep fusion-clearfix\" style=\"float:left;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><span class=\"icon-wrapper\" style=\"border-color:#e0dede;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0);font-size:16px;width: 1.75em; height: 1.75em;border-width:1px;padding:1px;margin-top:-0.5px\"><i class=\"fa-th-list fas\" style=\"font-size: inherit;color:#e2e2e2;\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/span><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-5 gradient-container-5 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-6 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\"><h2><strong>Concepts for mediation<\/strong><\/h2>\n<div><strong>Part 1: The TA concept of passivity &#8211; passive thinking.<\/strong><\/div>\n<p>This concept originates from transactional analysis. It helps to structure counselling processes and generate questions.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The <strong>Concept of passive thinking<\/strong> we have found a detailed description and instructions for you in our <a href=\"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/blog\/concept-of-passivity-when-passive-thinking-prevents-solutions\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here<\/a> in the INKOVEMA blog. We look forward to your feedback!<\/li>\n<li>Passivity is in the <strong>Elements of mediation<\/strong> as an independent element, so that you can also access <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elemente-der-mediation.de\/\">www.elemente-der-mediation.de<\/a>\u00a0find further information.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-has-icon fusion-full-width-sep fusion-clearfix\" style=\"float:left;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><span class=\"icon-wrapper\" style=\"border-color:#e0dede;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0);font-size:16px;width: 1.75em; height: 1.75em;border-width:1px;padding:1px;margin-top:-0.5px\"><i class=\"fa-th-list fas\" style=\"font-size: inherit;color:#e2e2e2;\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/span><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-sep-clear\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":4151,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[187],"tags":[179,220,132,72,73,221],"class_list":["post-4484","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-newsletter-archiv","tag-gewalt","tag-konflikte-zu-hause","tag-konflikteskalation","tag-konzepte-fuer-die-mediation","tag-passives-denken","tag-ta-konzept-der-passivitaet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4484","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4484"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4484\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4151"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4484"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4484"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4484"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}