{"id":11596,"date":"2023-04-29T00:37:45","date_gmt":"2023-04-28T22:37:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/?p=11596"},"modified":"2025-08-05T11:34:22","modified_gmt":"2025-08-05T09:34:22","slug":"experiences-conflict-party-mediation-mediation-professionals-isabell-luetkehaus-tilman-metzger-124","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/blog\/experiences-conflict-party-mediation-mediation-professionals-isabell-luetkehaus-tilman-metzger-124\/","title":{"rendered":"Experiences of mediation professionals as conflict parties in mediation. In conversation with Dr Isabell L\u00fctkehaus and Tilman Metzger (INKOVEMA podcast #124)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container gradient-container-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:1144px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:20px;--awb-spacing-left-large:1.92%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\"><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-four\"><h4 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:16;--minFontSize:16;line-height:1.5;\"><h4>INKOVEMA Podcast &#8222;Well through time&#8220;<\/h4><\/h4><\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-2 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-one\"><h1 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:34;line-height:1.4;\"><h1>#124 &#8211; Experiences of mediation professionals as conflict parties in mediation<\/h1><\/h1><\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-3 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-three\"><h3 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:20;line-height:1.5;\"><h2>Was haben Mediator*innen als Konfliktparteien in Mediationen &#8211; f\u00fcr ihre eigene Professionalisierung &#8211; gelernt? Im Gespr\u00e4ch mit Dr. Isabell L\u00fctkehaus und Tilman Metzger<\/h2><\/h3><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Well through time. The podcast about mediation, conflict coaching and organisational consulting.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;--awb-sep-color:#ffffff;border-color:#ffffff;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><script class=\"podigee-podcast-player\" src=\"https:\/\/player.podigee-cdn.net\/podcast-player\/javascripts\/podigee-podcast-player.js\" data-configuration=\"https:\/\/inkovema.podigee.io\/124-124-erfahrungen-als-konfliktpartei-in-der-mediation-von-mediationsprofis\/embed?context=external\"><\/script><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;--awb-sep-color:#ffffff;border-color:#ffffff;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\"><p><strong>Dr Isabell L\u00fctkehaus, lawyer<\/strong>mediator, podcaster (&#8222;Familie bleiben&#8220;) and author of the standard work \"Basiswissen Mediation\", lives and works in Berlin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tilman Metzger<\/strong>, mediator from the very beginning in Germany and a recognised expert in mediation.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;--awb-sep-color:#ffffff;border-color:#ffffff;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\"><h2>Contents:<\/h2>\n<p>This time I spoke to Isabell L\u00fctkehaus and Tilman Metzger, two mediation professionals of calibre, about our own experiences as conflict parties in mediations.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>What have mediators learnt as mediators for their profession?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<blockquote>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>As a mediator, the most important thing is not to be kicked out. <\/strong><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Because the presence is already effective enough.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>The effectiveness of paraphrasing and reframing by the mediator.<\/li>\n<li>The clarifying effect of being able to listen to the other party to the conflict talking about the conflict to another person.<\/li>\n<li>The relief effect of handing over responsibility for the dialogue process.<\/li>\n<li>Social pressure at the mediation table (disciplinary effects, pressure to be consistent, etc.)<\/li>\n<li>The powerful effect of the presence of a neutral third party.<\/li>\n<li>Mediation is a crucial phase in the conflict dynamics &#8211; and certainly a &#8222;game changer&#8220;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>My personal experience as a mediator:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>At the youth welfare office and in family counselling between me and my (step)parents.<\/li>\n<li>As a partner with my partner (private mediation)<\/li>\n<li>As managing director with my business partner (business mediation)<\/li>\n<li>As a partner in a child custody case with my wife in family counselling.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:20px;margin-bottom:20px;width:100%;\"><div class=\"fusion-separator-border sep-single\" style=\"--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;--awb-sep-color:#ffffff;border-color:#ffffff;border-top-width:1px;\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":11597,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,183,781,314,371,42],"tags":[652,1003,1002,651],"class_list":["post-11596","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-allgemein","category-audio","category-fehlerkultur","category-inkovema-podcast","category-mediationsausbildung","category-podcast","tag-allparteilichkeit","tag-anwesenheit","tag-kohaerenzzwang","tag-neutralitaet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11596","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11596"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11596\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11597"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11596"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11596"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev.inkovema.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11596"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}